Comments on: Number One Parenting Tip: Train Your Young Child to Ask Permission http://homesteepedhope.com/2008/08/01/number-one-parenting-tip-train-your-young-child-to-ask-permission/ Thu, 08 Jan 2009 16:09:10 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 By: Mary http://homesteepedhope.com/2008/08/01/number-one-parenting-tip-train-your-young-child-to-ask-permission/comment-page-1/#comment-12558 Mary Sun, 10 Aug 2008 04:43:44 +0000 http://homesteepedhope.com/?p=833#comment-12558 Read Proverbs! ;) Seriously...you have before you such joys to look forward to, Bethanie! I remember my pre-baby days...God led us to some very wonderful Godly parents who took us under their wing and shared some awesome parenting books and helps with our family. I still look back at that and am awed that we discovered these helps before we had kids, rather than after we had kids with problems to fix! So often that is when we start looking for solutions and ways to parent, is when we already have difficult children. Pray that God will lead you similarly and give you both wisdom...I'm so excited to see how God works out your future and your children! Read Proverbs! ;) Seriously…you have before you such joys to look forward to, Bethanie! I remember my pre-baby days…God led us to some very wonderful Godly parents who took us under their wing and shared some awesome parenting books and helps with our family. I still look back at that and am awed that we discovered these helps before we had kids, rather than after we had kids with problems to fix! So often that is when we start looking for solutions and ways to parent, is when we already have difficult children. Pray that God will lead you similarly and give you both wisdom…I’m so excited to see how God works out your future and your children!

]]> By: Bethanie http://homesteepedhope.com/2008/08/01/number-one-parenting-tip-train-your-young-child-to-ask-permission/comment-page-1/#comment-12543 Bethanie Sat, 09 Aug 2008 12:14:14 +0000 http://homesteepedhope.com/?p=833#comment-12543 I want more parenting stuff. I need to know <em>Bethanie's last blog post..<a href='http://the-desire-of-my-heart.blogspot.com/2008/05/weight.html'>weight</a></em> I want more parenting stuff. I need to know

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]]> By: Mary http://homesteepedhope.com/2008/08/01/number-one-parenting-tip-train-your-young-child-to-ask-permission/comment-page-1/#comment-12452 Mary Mon, 04 Aug 2008 21:47:57 +0000 http://homesteepedhope.com/?p=833#comment-12452 It happens before you realize it's a problem! That's why I'm hoping people will read this with infants and be ahead of the game. It's so much easier to train right (and if my dh and I hadn't had this tip given to us when our firstborn was still "in the oven" we would have had to learn it the hard way...) than to have to go back and retrain. The thing to do when you realize you have a problem, is take away all freedoms until they can handle accepting your authority. Easier said than done. A lot of people would argue that this will produce children that can't make their minds up or seek approval for everything they do...but that's not true. What it does, is produce pretty responsible kids that know the right thing to do and have learned it well enough that they usually do it second nature. Now, sure it's different with different kids, but the basic premise is common sense... It happens before you realize it’s a problem! That’s why I’m hoping people will read this with infants and be ahead of the game. It’s so much easier to train right (and if my dh and I hadn’t had this tip given to us when our firstborn was still “in the oven” we would have had to learn it the hard way…) than to have to go back and retrain.

The thing to do when you realize you have a problem, is take away all freedoms until they can handle accepting your authority. Easier said than done. A lot of people would argue that this will produce children that can’t make their minds up or seek approval for everything they do…but that’s not true. What it does, is produce pretty responsible kids that know the right thing to do and have learned it well enough that they usually do it second nature. Now, sure it’s different with different kids, but the basic premise is common sense…

]]> By: MInTheGap http://homesteepedhope.com/2008/08/01/number-one-parenting-tip-train-your-young-child-to-ask-permission/comment-page-1/#comment-12442 MInTheGap Mon, 04 Aug 2008 17:53:04 +0000 http://homesteepedhope.com/?p=833#comment-12442 We're just noticing now that our kids have had too many choices and decisions, and have started to believe that they have the right to tell us what they will eat, what they want to do, etc. It's not just the "I can't hear you" when they forget to say please, it's the constant, incessant idea that they have that they are the most important thing that I have to pay attention to at any given moment. Whew! <em>MInTheGap's last blog post..<a href='http://www.minthegap.com/2008/08/04/the-wedding-and-after/'>The Wedding and After</a></em> We’re just noticing now that our kids have had too many choices and decisions, and have started to believe that they have the right to tell us what they will eat, what they want to do, etc.

It’s not just the “I can’t hear you” when they forget to say please, it’s the constant, incessant idea that they have that they are the most important thing that I have to pay attention to at any given moment. Whew!

MInTheGap’s last blog post..The Wedding and After

]]> By: Amy M http://homesteepedhope.com/2008/08/01/number-one-parenting-tip-train-your-young-child-to-ask-permission/comment-page-1/#comment-12441 Amy M Mon, 04 Aug 2008 17:09:41 +0000 http://homesteepedhope.com/?p=833#comment-12441 A great post, Mary. Our little Lydia is 21 months and just over the last week she seems to have morphed from a sweet little thing to a terrible toddler. I think the terrible 2's are starting a few months early. Yikes. I know she is testing the boundaries and I am just praying we will consistently set the appropriate guidelines for her. Your post was helpful and encouraging during this time. A great post, Mary. Our little Lydia is 21 months and just over the last week she seems to have morphed from a sweet little thing to a terrible toddler. I think the terrible 2’s are starting a few months early. Yikes. I know she is testing the boundaries and I am just praying we will consistently set the appropriate guidelines for her. Your post was helpful and encouraging during this time.

]]> By: Mary http://homesteepedhope.com/2008/08/01/number-one-parenting-tip-train-your-young-child-to-ask-permission/comment-page-1/#comment-12429 Mary Mon, 04 Aug 2008 01:02:13 +0000 http://homesteepedhope.com/?p=833#comment-12429 Only 2 years away, Colleen, and I promise you they will fly! I bet your step-daughter is already hinting around about wanting a baby sibling!?!? ;) Rachael, thank you for your wonderful comment! It really blessed me today. I'm always a little fearful of first time commenters on a "Parenting Post"! Lol. (been attacked here before!) I'm glad you liked the picture, we all got such a kick out of sleeping beauty that day...she was royally wiped out! You'll have fun with the car game...it's something my girls beg for. Once I taught them every little trivia fact I knew, I had to ask my mom (a pastor's wife) for even more! I'm always thrilled for book recommendations! This Bible Talks sounds really good! I'm following your link right now... Thanks again, hope you come back by...how many children do you have? Mary Only 2 years away, Colleen, and I promise you they will fly! I bet your step-daughter is already hinting around about wanting a baby sibling!?!? ;)

Rachael, thank you for your wonderful comment! It really blessed me today. I’m always a little fearful of first time commenters on a “Parenting Post”! Lol. (been attacked here before!) I’m glad you liked the picture, we all got such a kick out of sleeping beauty that day…she was royally wiped out! You’ll have fun with the car game…it’s something my girls beg for. Once I taught them every little trivia fact I knew, I had to ask my mom (a pastor’s wife) for even more!

I’m always thrilled for book recommendations! This Bible Talks sounds really good! I’m following your link right now…

Thanks again, hope you come back by…how many children do you have?

Mary

]]> By: Rachael http://homesteepedhope.com/2008/08/01/number-one-parenting-tip-train-your-young-child-to-ask-permission/comment-page-1/#comment-12422 Rachael Sun, 03 Aug 2008 17:31:35 +0000 http://homesteepedhope.com/?p=833#comment-12422 Cute picture by the way. I think this is really interesting topic. Thanks for the post. I can see how this is affective. Kids are very demanding. Once they assume control, it is difficult to keep them respectful out in the world. Not only making them ask for permission, but also leading by example and maybe even teaching faith. I like the car game, thanks! I will use that. One of our favorite books right now is "This Bible Talks!" by Pamela Fischer. Narrated by Michael David McGuire. It is a great great book for pre-readers...I highly recommed it...<a href="http://www.thisbibletalks.com">http://www.thisbibletalks.com </a>. I also put as the link in my name if any one wants to know where to find it. I have a friends kid who is very demanding because they let him do what he wants. Now, he is so disruptive in pre-school that they are always being called with problems. I think he will have a hard time in life when people tell him to do things he doesn't want to do. Nice post... Cute picture by the way. I think this is really interesting topic. Thanks for the post. I can see how this is affective. Kids are very demanding. Once they assume control, it is difficult to keep them respectful out in the world.

Not only making them ask for permission, but also leading by example and maybe even teaching faith. I like the car game, thanks! I will use that. One of our favorite books right now is “This Bible Talks!” by Pamela Fischer. Narrated by Michael David McGuire. It is a great great book for pre-readers…I highly recommed it…http://www.thisbibletalks.com . I also put as the link in my name if any one wants to know where to find it.

I have a friends kid who is very demanding because they let him do what he wants. Now, he is so disruptive in pre-school that they are always being called with problems. I think he will have a hard time in life when people tell him to do things he doesn’t want to do.

Nice post…

]]> By: Colleen http://homesteepedhope.com/2008/08/01/number-one-parenting-tip-train-your-young-child-to-ask-permission/comment-page-1/#comment-12421 Colleen Sun, 03 Aug 2008 17:00:22 +0000 http://homesteepedhope.com/?p=833#comment-12421 Not anytime soon, maybe 2010! Need to get use to being a step mommy first!! <em>Colleen's last blog post..<a href='http://www.colleenriggle.com/?p=865'>fantastic Friday: Money talk</a></em> Not anytime soon, maybe 2010! Need to get use to being a step mommy first!!

Colleen’s last blog post..fantastic Friday: Money talk

]]> By: Mary http://homesteepedhope.com/2008/08/01/number-one-parenting-tip-train-your-young-child-to-ask-permission/comment-page-1/#comment-12415 Mary Sun, 03 Aug 2008 03:47:27 +0000 http://homesteepedhope.com/?p=833#comment-12415 Yes, and especially when you've let things slide! :O( Yes, and especially when you’ve let things slide! :O(

]]> By: Jessica http://homesteepedhope.com/2008/08/01/number-one-parenting-tip-train-your-young-child-to-ask-permission/comment-page-1/#comment-12407 Jessica Sat, 02 Aug 2008 16:48:15 +0000 http://homesteepedhope.com/?p=833#comment-12407 Thanks for being so candid! It's tough to figure out how to parent in the way that each child needs, especially when you have such different ages and personalities! <em>Jessica's last blog post..<a href='http://farmfreshiowa.blogspot.com/2008/08/mamas-birthday.html'>A Mama's Birthday</a></em> Thanks for being so candid!

It’s tough to figure out how to parent in the way that each child needs, especially when you have such different ages and personalities!

Jessica’s last blog post..A Mama’s Birthday

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