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The Dying to Self Series

A situation with a dear loved one had me reviewing my blog for the series of posts I did on “Dying to Self”. I thought I’d repost the links for […]

stretchingA situation with a dear loved one had me reviewing my blog for the series of posts I did on “Dying to Self”. I thought I’d repost the links for them here, in case anyone else is wanting a refresher.

Here’s a quote from my first one titled, Exploring Dying to Self:

“The path toward humility is death to self. When self is dead, humility has been perfected. Jesus humbled Himself unto death, and by His example the way is opened for us to follow. A dead man or woman does not react to an offense. The truth is, if we become offended by the words of others, then death to self has not been finished. When we humble ourselves despite injustice and there is perfect peace of heart, then death to self is complete. Death is the seed, while humility is the ripened fruit.” Alice Smith

In another one, Dying to Self in Marriage, I share a list of ways we all feel entitled. Taken from Nancy Leigh DeMoss’s book Lies Women Believe:

“Today it is assumed that,

  • you have a right to be happy
  • you have a right to be understood
  • you have a right to be loved
  • you have a right to a certain standard of living, to an equitable wage, and to decent benefits
  • you have a right to a good marriage
  • you have a right to companionship and romance
  • you have a right to be treated with respect in the workplace
  • you have a right to be valued by your husband and appreciated by your children
  • you have a right to a good night’s sleep
  • you have a right to have your husband pitch in with the household chores

And most important, if any of your rights are violated, you have the right to protest. You have a right to be angry. You have a right to be depressed. You have a right to take action. You have a right to insist on your rights!”

Lies, indeed. No freedom there.

In The Sting of Dying to Self, we are reminded at what great cost our sins and selfishnesses are to our relationships, and that it all adds up to DENYING God by our DEEDS, even when we profess Him from our lips…we see how important denying SELF is. It helps us proclaim Christ.

Titus 1:15-16,

“To the pure, all things are pure; but to those who are defiled and unbelieving, nothing is pure, but both their mind and their conscience are defiled. They profess to know God but by their deeds they deny Him…”

In Are You Willing? we see through the Messianic prophecies in Isaiah 50:4-9 how the process works:

It’s a process. If you start applying it at the beginning (vs 4) by committing to reading God’s word, and from His word/prayer learning His will for your life (vs 5), practicing being obedient (vs 5 and 6), getting in the habit of bucking this world system in favor of doing right (vs 7), coming back to God to fill you up because suffering is part of Christianity (vs 8 ), and getting to the point that this process is second nature. All your priorities fall in line because of your continual desire to put God and His ways first (vs 9).

And finally, in Grace for the Weary, we see more Messianic prophecies, like this from Isaiah 42:3 and more,

“A bruised reed He (God the Son) will not break, and a dimly burning wick He will not extinguish.” Isaiah 42:3 (parentheses mine)

Have you ever felt like a dimly burning wick? This post takes the topic of callings, in particular, our family’s calling to homeschool. But I think it applies to whatever your particular “burn out” may be. Get your vision back and go for it!

Be sure to check out these older blog posts for the great scriptures alone. There’s a wealth of encouragement there for every problem known unto man.

Would love to hear your thoughts on dying to self. :O)

3 replies on “The Dying to Self Series”

This is a subject very dear to my heart. You know, Jesus left heaven, humbled Himself to become in the likeness of man. He did not constantly stroke His ego with what He had left in heaven. He did not flinch when He was bad mouthed. His bottom line was that He had come to do His Father’s will. That focus kept Him from self-pity and pride and all those emotions we experience as we live among people like ourselves. He knew we would be ill treated by family members, friends, acquaintences. He knew…and yet He asks us to humble ourselves. It is not my ego or self worth that is important. It is to know Him and to glory in Him. “Let him that glorieth glory in this that he knows and understands Me, that I am God”. Moses reminded the Israelites at the end of the 40 years of wandering that they were to remember the humbling circumstances of those years…in the words of Deut. 8:2 “…to humble you, to test you and to know what is in your heart and whether you will keep His Word or not.” Testing is a wonderful thing because it helps us get our eyes off ourselves and on Him. Testing is to humble us.

I need to humble myself, seek His face and pray…He has told me that these wrestling tests are not focused on flesh and blood but rather they come from principalities and powers of the evil one. You can’t be humble if you refuse to be hurt, if you nurse a grievance, if you try to set people straight. Accept what He allows to touch your life, thank Him for loving you enough to test your faith.

Thank you for sharing all this, Mom, humility is really the key. Loved the verses you mentioned too. This is a great subject for further reflection!

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